Written by our travelling ‘single-and-dating post Prostatectomy’ man, and his trusty friend, ‘Pedro’.

If like me you suffer from erectile dysfunction issues, you’re probably wondering what your options are for penetrative sex.

Well, amazingly, there are many. Not countless (as I have counted most of them), but enough to keep you and your partner very content.

And possibly you have the same attitude as I do: If my partner is happy, then I am very happy.

Here is one alternative that is generally not found in the rehabilitation treatment brochures found in the Urologists waiting room:

The humble “Strap On”.

Image: Zoro 5.5” Strap On (Buy Australia) (Buy USA/Canada)

On my first sex toy shopping trip post Prostate Surgery, knowing that Pedro was going to be on sick leave for up to 12 months, I decided to invest in a strap-on (‘external prosthesis’) as shown above. 

His name is Zoro. 

It has been designed for the wearer to be a woman or a man, and comfortably fits both.

How do you use a Strap-on?

My flaccid friend Pedro and scrotum fit snuggly through the opening in the strap on. The silicone member sits just above.

Once I’ve slipped the harness on like a pair of undies, and rearranged my bits through the opening, I am ready for action.

With the strap-on there are no boundaries to sexual positions or even the duration - the Zoro does not need Viagra!

Of course at first it feels different as my body is doing all the same physical gyrations that I did before the operation, but now there is a feeling of disconnection. I can feel Zoro sliding in and out, but Pedro is feeling none of this.

(In order to incorporate more sensation and physical connection, you can experiment with the Neuroplasticity exercise suggested by Professor Richard Wassersug in this case study).

It’s great to see your partner enjoying the feeling of penetration that has been missing, and you can weave the strap on into the suite of sensual offerings. 

Even as Pedro’s recovery progressed and I didn’t necessarily need the strap on, I still use it. Sort of like a tag team effort. The options are numerous and only limited by your imagination.

What’s the best Strap-on to buy for ED?

Strap-ons come in all different configurations, so do your research.

(Always make sure the strap-on you choose has been designed for Erectile Dysfunction, and the dildo is made from medical-grade silicone).

Zoro is one-piece molded silicone with an elasticated harness. It has an internal recess for inserting a bullet vibrator to add more zest to the action and it’s super easy to wash.

I’ve had feedback that some partners find the Zoro’s shaft a little too skinny, so you might prefer the option below instead.

(On the other hand, if your partner has experienced sexual function changes post menopause they may find more comfort and pleasure from a smaller tapered dildo).

Image: Harness (Buy Australia) (Buy USA) & Dildos by Tantus (Buy Australia) (Buy kit: USA)

The alternative to Zoro is just as effective. This is a wearable harness with a holding ring for an interchangeable dildo. The advantage here is the dildo can be any size or shape, so you can graduate up or down to find the Goldilocks zone for your partner.

Dildos by Tantus (as pictured above) are made using high quality silicone-based products and come in many shapes and sizes. The silicone is not too ‘rigid’ but it’s firm and very smooth for insertion once lubrication/lubricant is applied.

You will not feel any lesser of a man by wearing a strap-on. For me, the sound of my partner saying, “don’t stop, please don’t stop” when using a strap on, makes me forget I ever had cancer!

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